
To the ever present father
Thank you for deferring your dreams so that mine could be realised
I know you would have wanted to be more than what you are today
You sacrificed your sweat and hard-earned money for us
Thank you for being uncomfortable so that I could live comfortably
For lifting heavy loads on both hands, over your shoulders( literally and figuratively )it all seemed as if you were carrying weight as light as a feather! When mom and I tried to carry the same load, gravity immediately humbled us.
It’s like you were born to play out your role perfectly well!
For concealing your pain and stifling your tears when we hit rock bottom,
I understand that like any other human being you have emotions,
For biting your lower lip and acting macho in front of us while you were in turmoil
Like a duck, seemingly calm on the surface but paddling like the dickens underneath
For showing up at all my special events from pre-school to asking you to bail me out in town after recklessly blowing up all the money I had including transport money.
I thought you had the ability to halt the sun and put everything on hold just for me.
For being a Ginnie in a teapot, popping out whenever I wanted you to,
Immediately appearing the moment I rubbed the teapot -the only difference is that I wasn’t restricted to only three wishes per day!
I’m sorry for being selfish, I really never thought sleep was important to you as much as it was to me because at the slightest twitch in my stomach I would give out a deafening cry just to get your attention
I remember you would immediately wake up and hold me in your arms till I fell asleep.
Even in uncharted and murky waters,
I always found myself in unfamiliar situations with zero experience absolutely clueless of what would happen next
I didn’t know how to behave nor act but nonetheless, you instructed me to firmly hold your hand and follow closely, right behind you
All I did was watch and learn
I always marvelled in my head what gifted father I had!
All the new and fancy things you introduced to me, I could swear you had travelled around the world in your past life!
I wasn’t afraid of the dark because I knew you were my knight in shining armour who would bust thieves and any other nocturnal beings.
For being my first teacher, handing me a pencil and paper with my name written on it and asking me to write it down, as you helped me shape the outline of the alphabet letters
You made it all seem easy!
Thank you for being patient with me,I remember you constantly correcting the shaping of my letters.
Even when my b’s would look like d’s you still believed in me
And…
To the invisible and absent father who never had the time to play out the “daddy” role,
Father, we needed you, the value wasn’t in the material items, those things never replaced nor substituted your presence we craved most
We needed you as a guiding influence
We needed you then and still need your love and support
Who will protect us and nurture us too?
Who will advocate for us, rebuke and teach us?
We also want to hold you accountable.
Even if we end up being raised by another man
there will always be a connection to you,
Are you aware of the gap created and the large hollow in our lives that you left us with?
We tried to live with it but I know I’ll be spending all my life trying to compensate for what never was
The opportunity is still there though ,
It’s never too late to fill the void.
You can begin some level of healing by trying to have a role in the lives of us, your estranged children, I know it will never be the same but it’s worth the try don’t you think?
It might not even happen since we were already used to not having you around.
To the father who was deserted by his own flesh and blood.
I apologise on their behalf, you are highly honoured!
To future fathers, your children deserve more.
To the father who never begat children of his own, ended up adopting and becoming a strong and significant influence on their adopted children,
We salute you!
To the deceased father. You might be gone but never forgotten
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WOW!!!! What a touching dedication to fathers! What stood out to me is how you told your own story of your relationship with your father to start it off, which was written in a very special way.
In the absent father’s part, you answered the questions I always wanted to tell about my absent father. Thank you for being sharing that part. Words cannot express how grateful you really are to have a present father in your life.
May God continue to keep you and your father close. Thank you for taking the time to write a post about gratitude, optimism, and thanksgiving. Well done, thy good and faithful servant! 😀 XOXO
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Thanks Mike for the beautiful and heartfelt comment !❤
Have you ever listened to Daddy’s home by Travis Greene?
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Its an honor really Xoxo 😀 I neevr heard of that song before
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You should look for it tell me what you think of it once you have listened to it
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I will now. Just ate lunch 😀
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I had to devour it lol
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Have you ever listened to “Speak” by Bethany Worship? 😀
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Nope..let me download it
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Okay. That is the song I add in with the Our voice post 😀
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I am listening to it right now :D. So far, I am loving his testimony!
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Thanks for reblogging😊😊
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Anything for you! 😀
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This was very moving for me to read !
It is so sensitively written.
The child who experiences the warm, unconditional love of an earthly Father is blessed indeed. That child will easily be able to believe in the goodness of our Heavenly Father.
I was also blessed with a wonderful father.
Thanks for posting. This is an article I will long remember.
Beautiful photo too ! 🌷🤗
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Hey Sally❤Thank you for the beautiful comment.
I found myself tearing up as I was writing it too.It was so emotionally moving for me .I thank God you were also blessed with an amazing father! ❤
Thanks for the compliment
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Agreed!
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This is very touching and brings out all the necessary details.
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Thanks Amelia 😊
Stay blessed
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You are welcome.
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Come through ma’am!!! Sooo beautifully put out.
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You really meant it when you said you’ll be here more often😊!
Thank you ❤❤❤
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😁 I’m here for this life!
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Deep and beautiful; dads are rarely recognized but you have done it well.👏
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Thank you so much and I’m glad you liked it😊
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That’s beautiful, sweet heart.
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Thank you Aunty ❤
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Powerful beyond words and very touching👏👏
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Thank you Mom❤
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This is one gooood post! Well done!
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Thank you Mia❤
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I liked this situation very good
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Thank you 😊
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thanks
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This is very moving and well written. Powerful words, thank you for sharing
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Thank you for taking your time to go through the post🙋
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You are welcome 😊, keep up the great work
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That was just incredible…
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Thank you Simon!
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You’re welcome 🙂
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Lovely poem. ❤
God bless our fathers. 🙏
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Thank you Herry❤
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You are welcome. 🤗
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Wow! There are Fathers Day tributes and then there are Fathers Day tributes. You’ve nailed that particular market! Fabulous post 😀
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Hahahaha!I’m glad you loved it !Thank you Charlie 😀
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And thank you for the follow. I think I’m going to love your posts 😀
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Not as much as I’m going to love yours 😀..Stay safe and stay connected!
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Hey, yeah, you too 😀
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So nice .
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Thank you 😊
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Speechless! Very touching
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Thank you Binte
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Wonderful and touching message!
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Thank you😊
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What a beautiful way to portray the love of your Father. He must be so proud. So very
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Yes he is one proud father!
Thank you for commenting😊
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Such a beautiful and soul touching account. A father holds his child’s heart forever that is for sure.Thank you and best wishes 🍀
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Thank you Dilip!
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Amen 🙏
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🙏🙏
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beautiful
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Thank you
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welcome
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Your father probably feels as I do that it is the greatest privilege to be a father. I thank God everyday for granting me this privilege. Thank you for sharing this dedication. Stay safe.
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Thank you..Happy Father’s day to you !You stay safe too☺
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Tears…. this was absolutely moving … needed to see this today… Thank You… deeply touched🌹🌹☀️☀️🙏🙏❤️❤️
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Awww Georgetta (( hugs*))
Thank you for passing by & God bless you❤
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An absolute honor… Thank you… and I will be following ❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
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In Chile, where I live, Father’s Day is celebrated today. An unusual celebration due to quarantine. Separated from the sons in protection of health.
I have read with much interest your thoughts to your father. It has been an uplifting read for bringing forth your feelings as a daughter. Grateful and recognizing the value of a love that cannot be compared in life.
Good for each of your words. one, as a father, immerses himself in that accumulation of expressions and it is a great satisfaction to appreciate a letter as heartfelt as yours.
I am pleased to be on your blog. I’m sure I will enjoy it.
Manuel
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Hello Manuel so nice to hear from you .I never imagined we would celebrate Special days like Father’s day in quarantine and some nations on lockdown with restricted movement making it difficult for children to spend the day with their Fathers..some even lost their Fathers to this deadly pandemic making it even harder to commemorate this day! However, interacting with people like you here gives me hope and a glimmer of hope that we will get through this together and when it’s all over we will have stories to tell and books to write too😊
Stay safe and keep in touch!
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We all hope that this dark weather will see clarity at some point. For you also my wishes that you take care of yourself because health is priceless.
Manuel
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Nice blog! 🙂
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Thanks Vishal😊
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A heart touching post, your feelings for a father reflect your unwavering love towards him. nice post ma’am
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Thank you Sir😊
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What a lucky fellow, your Dad! What an amazing daughter you are to do him so proud…
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Thank you😊😊
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Such a loving post and a beautiful tribute you’ve written for your father.
Glad I came across it.
Keep writing.
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Thanks a lot for passing by❤
And the lovely comment too 😊
Will keep writing
Stay safe
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Such a raw, emotional and overall great post! I doubt I will ever be a father myself, though this post sort of made me feel like one. Thank you and stay safe!
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Thank you ,you take care of yourself and be safe hey!
..(I’m just curious why you doubt you’ll ever be a father one-day 😄)
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Oh! Well, for me personally, I’m not interested in sexual activity and such. I have nothing against it, it’s just not my thing. I’m totally down for having a partner one day, just no children, that’s all. Hope you understand, and big thanks for following my blog! It means a lot 🙂
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Reblogged this on My Dad: A Champion and commented:
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😊Forever Grateful Craig!
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What a beautiful tribute, Maureen! ❤
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Thank you Jennifer❤
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You are welcome, dear! ❤ 🙂
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This is so beautiful, and touching!🥺❤️
Glad it addressed not only the present fathers but those who weren’t. Nice piece✨
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Feels rewarding when a sister takes time to read & appreciate the words of a fellow blogger❤
Thanks my dear!
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You are welcome! It’s my pleasure.. love your work, please keep it up!🙏🏿
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😊
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Also, please check out my new blog post! I nominated you for the Ideal Inspiration Blogger Award, please check the post for details!
I look forward to reading your response to my questions upon acceptance of the award! 😃🙏💛👊🎉
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Oh my !Thank you Glenda for this unexpected nomination😊
Checking out your post just now 💃
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You’re welcome❤️✨
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Children need a father who will be constantly present, provide love and protection. Understand the child’s needs to make them feel smart and happy
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I totally agree and also the absence of the father figure leaves the child with emotional scars that will take long to heal and deal with, it will also affect other relationships in the long run
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What a beautiful post!!!
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Thank you Diane😊
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You’re such a great writer. Am inspired reading your work of art.
Salute to all responsible fathers ‘
Great lessons for the fathers to be*
Am happy to learn so much.
God Bless you with more wisdom🙏🙏
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Hey Fredrick!
Your comment is gold and I cherish it! May you become one of those responsible and ever present fathers 😊
Thank you for the blessings ,I receive and God richly bless you !
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Amen to your prayer Over my life😊
Keep winning💯🔥👍👍
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This hit home. Having lost my father a few years ago, I have tried to ignore Father’s Day when it comes around– not to forget my father, but to dull the pain and to stop waiting for him to come back. Thankfully, I know where he is, and there will be a reunion someday. Thank you for this beautiful dedication.
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Thank you for reading leaving a comment dear
I’m so sorry about your father
He is in a much better place now
You have him in your heart and his
memory is your keep sake❤
Take care
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My total admiration and salute to your dad. You are such a lucky lady to have a dad like him. Treasure him kindly.
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I will treasure him ,,always!
Thank you so much for leaving a comment
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I wrote a piece to honor my Dad a long time ago. Here it is: https://cbholganza.com/2013/11/14/my-papa-and-the-original-athletes-foot/
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I enjoyed reading your piece!loved the part where he bought you the basketball😊
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thank you so much, Maureen. it was a giddy time for me. i was so excited i thought i’d pee on my pants. i still remember that moment even though it was decades ago. and i so want to thank my dad for that best present ever that he gave me.
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I even felt your excitement as I was reading through your article! so do you still have the basketball? 😀
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Unfortunately, no. It has long since retired and disposed. I should’ve kept it.
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YOU WROTE VERY WELL .
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Thanks Vishal
Following back and going through your blog now ☺
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Welcome ! Thanks you!
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A lovely tribute. Yes, “paddling like the dickens” underneath. I know that my own father did that, for years… (Thank you for following my blog, too!)
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I’m glad you can relate..Growing up,I used to wonder If dads were superbeings😅
Thank you once again and I’ll be following your posts❤
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Thanks. I think they possibly are superbeings! My Dad was.
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Brilliant post. Fathers are vital to our development. Cheers, Muriel
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Yes they are!
Thank you for stopping by Muriel☺
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Good to get positive feedback, as I told my son on Father’s Day. I had a baby for myself when I was young and driven by instinct, but really t’s a selfish act in the context of its time. Afterward, we fathers sometimes doubt whether we have done the best thing for the child. What kind of life, what kind of world have we brought them into? And I will move along the river of life and one day die, and leave them to themselves.
I will still feel like I am deserting them when I die, but having seen them all grow into strong and successful adults, my fears are allayed somewhat. (I must mention my son for whom this is not the case, as we lost him at the age of 22.)
I cannot begin to imagine the life of the absentee father. There are two sides to every story, I know.
But for me, I would walk through the fires of Hell before I would separate myself from them.
Seek peace,
Paz
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I’m sorry about your Son, Paz,
As fathers, You might doubt yourselves but all the effort you put won’t go unnoticed and we cherish you for that!
Blessings
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Never ever have I read such a real script of life, since I have been born. You stole my heart through this. Lots of love to you and your father who brought up such a wonderful pearl like you.
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Hello Desire!
I receive your lovely compliment with a humble and grateful heart!😊
Thank you so much and stay safe!
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These are wonderful words for all Fathers! But don’t forget all the beautiful Mothers in the world too!
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How can we forget the mothers!They are the bones to our spines rendering us support always!
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Thank you Maurice for the thoughtful gesture☺
Beautifully penned as well ❤
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Amazing post
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Thank you Shivi
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